Take Ur Time

Since my last post my anxiety has gone down Alhumdulillah, and this week has actually been great in terms of me socializing. What I've noticed I've been doing is that whenever I talk to someone, I'm waiting on the convo to be over even if I'm enjoying it. Idk what's wrong with me lol. So anyways, I've been trying to keep that in mind and so far it's been working out. I had a phone screening for a job today and beforehand I also tried to remember to take my time and not try to rush. I feel like I absolutely killed it, well maybe not absolutely but I did well. When it came to me asking the questions I had, he was the one taking his time talking lol, but he did give me a lot of information of the work environment etc.

This may stem from not wanting to take up people's time/space and I'm working to get over that. I had to remind myself that this phone screening had ample allotted time and I could be as long-winded as I want and talk as slow as I want while also taking the time to think of what I wanted to say. 

But yeah, I just have to learn that it's okay to take time and slow down :)

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Memory: I might have been a tween at this time I have no idea and I also don't remember the context, but my father had taken my brothers and I to IHOP. I remember thinking that this was the first time that we had eaten at a restaurant with him so I was kinda nervous lol. I don't remember it being too awkward tho. Now that I think of it, that might have been the first and last time we've went to a sit-down restaurant with him. Maybe I should take him to one some day.

Edit: it was awkward, I remember...

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